Some ideas on turning 41!
The previous couple of years I’ve written letters about Turning 39 and Turning 40. Each years felt very vital and a giant turning level within the age spectrum.
As we speak I’m turning boring #41.
Final night time associates and I went to King Household Vineyards for trivia. It was a blast! My birthday want in the present day is to chill out at dwelling, go to my favourite exercise class, and luxuriate in a straightforward dinner at dwelling with the boys. Tomorrow Thomas and I’ve a giant night time out in town.
It’s been a busy few weeks celebrating a lot of Libras and Scorpios!
Some issues I’ve observed in my 40s to this point:
I nonetheless really feel like a younger grownup
I’d say my mind feels prefer it’s within the 33-34 age vary. And to suppose that was virtually a decade in the past.
The time I really feel most like a 40 12 months previous is after we play groups of 20 12 months olds on the soccer area. Geez they’re fast! Our crew’s common age is someplace within the higher 30s to decrease 40s, and we’re consistently joking about needing to retire from the principle league that has too many 20 12 months olds operating round.
My physique is slowing down
Talking of operating round, I’m not the quickest, quickest, strongest model of myself. I really feel like upon hitting 40 my mindset modified from “push your self as onerous as you may!” to “DON’T GET HURT!” In my health club courses I’m going at 90% as an alternative of 100% as a result of I actually concern if I went at 100 I’d break or tear one thing. I’m nonetheless coping with a shoulder subject which may plague me ceaselessly, however I’ve discovered tips on how to handle it.
Truthfully I’m so grateful that I’m able to be energetic. From my foot points throughout my school years, I do know what it appears like not to have the ability to transfer your physique, and I’m so grateful I’m able to transfer mine how I need. Some days that’s strolling to and from the preschool twice and that’s what feels actually good. Different days it’s a 2 hour soccer sport after which a number of days of relaxation afterwards. Relaxation is now a requirement.
Regardless of my physique slowing down a bit, I’m my most assured self on the health club. Health has at all times been a method for me to blow off steam, join with others, and destress, and I at all times really feel blissful in my group ex courses. This submit comes up rather a lot in dialog with different ladies my age.
Most girls I speak to about physique picture say that their energy and talent is extra essential than seems. Most individuals aren’t keen to sacrifice life to look a sure method. I believe that is each knowledge that comes with age and acceptance of what’s.
Nothing is as essential as sleep
I noticed this humorous meme lately from Emily Freeman about sleep in your 20s, 30s, and 40s:
Final weekend was packed 3 sporting occasions and three birthday events. We occasion hopped each Saturday and Sunday from one to the opposite. And each days as we have been driving dwelling at 5pm to placed on sweatpants, cook dinner or eat leftovers, and have a quiet night time in, Thomas and I remarked that we truly beloved having daytime occasions and comfortable evenings in. “We’re daytime individuals” he mentioned. You couldn’t pay me to remain out previous midnight as of late! (Really we’re going to a live performance tomorrow night time and can in all probability be out till 11 and I’ll want all day Saturday to relaxation, haha.)
Life is difficult
Like a advantageous wine, there are layers upon layers to our lives. I’m consistently combating for simplicity whereas additionally accepting that with a husband, two children, and a home to handle, nothing will ever be easy. Whereas methods (like these I train in my Digital Muddle program) assist to maintain me organized with the entire adulting duties, once I get overwhelmed with all there’s to do time sensible, I’ve to remind myself to zoom out rather a lot and keep in mind what actually issues. Individuals matter. Well being issues.
This 12 months hasn’t been a straightforward one for us. Between the stress of our renovation (logistics, shifting twice and managing the funds of all of it), after which some unhappy and sophisticated household dynamics that I can’t share on-line, there was rather a lot occurring backstage. We have now tried onerous to assist those that want assist and do the fitting factor even when we’ve been wronged. There are query marks that I want have been commas.
Regardless of the above paragraphs, once I zoom out and look down at this life from a birds eye view, issues are good. Being again in our home has exceeded all expectations, and on a day-to-day stage issues are nice.
What’s subsequent?
Subsequent weekend: we’ve a enjoyable Friday night time out deliberate with associates (the boys are going to do a sleepover with their grandparents!) after which a fifth celebration for Birch on his massive day. Spoiler alert: it’s Star Wars themed 😉
Subsequent month: we’re internet hosting Thanksgiving in our new home!
Subsequent 12 months: we’ve not one however two tropical holidays deliberate! One simply Thomas and me and one with the children. I booked each journeys 100% on bank card factors and am engaged on an e-book coaching for getting began with free journey. (Somebody please present me time for my birthday so I can end it!)
Thanks for approaching this journey of life with me one other 12 months,
xx,
Kath
Cake at 39
